I'm afraid your characterization of me isn't accurate. I just like to think that we can all live our lives without imposing on other people. If the people you're listening to are resenting you for it, and are being too polite to tell you, you're doing something wrong. It's also not hard to tell when you're being resented as most people are not that good of actors. All I'm suggesting is that the elderly be as self-conscious as the rest of us are expected to be.