I think it's because we create a story about every part of us and our life. Every thing we do (sometimes we even do it after the fact).
I feel like those beliefs are what's keeping us grounded in the sense of understanding the world, of being in control. so it makes sense that we would start with them even if we are not aware of it.
And it makes sense that it's hard to let them go because without them you get a sense that you are just floating away and don't have any to "hang" your assumptions on.
You can reason a lot but there comes a point when things get bigger than you and you have to trust some other authority or just trust your gut.
There's not many people that could comfortably reason from first principles and be satisfied with where they end up. (I don't think I could do that)
"While FreeCAD technically does everything I need, the way it's implemented isn't quite to my liking. My biggest pain points with it are the modal sketcher that only works in 2D, no constraints in 3D for extrusions and the perils of referencing things in the design.
Solvespace on the other hand gets the workflow part right, but falls short by not importing STEP and the geometry kernel not supporting chamfers and fillets."
3D constraints are really interesting. I can see a lot of potential.
But also, 2D Sketching is a nice easy "Stay in your comfort zone" model that keeps as much work as possible in 2D where it's easier to think about, and encourages 2.5D stuff that's easy to understand. For basic functional items it's nice. For other stuff... 3D constraints seem pretty interesting.
>I would love to hear more about you're experiences growing up and especially the dysregulation.
Dysregulation[1] was Hell on Earth, in the literal sense. Very little in life works the way you think it should, and the reaction to these things constantly going wrong is extremely intense, negative, emotional unable to be controlled in any real sense. You lose the ability to reliably form even basic episodic/autobiographical memories, and with it any sense of the past or future. Entire chunks of your life go missing and you don't know what day it is, where you've been or where you're going. All you know is that you're constantly exhausted, nothing makes sense and everything just feels wrong. You don't know how long you've felt like this, and you don't know how long you'll continue to feel like this. As far as you're aware, past and future suffering will keep going on for eternity. And you will do anything, literally anything, to make it stop.
For me, I was fortunate that my mum took me to a sleep specialist, who recommended getting my adenoids removed and prescribing an extremely specific sleep schedule which I followed to a T (all screens off at 9:00, in bed by 10:00, I don't remember if there was a specific constant time I needed to wake up by but I suspect that was part of it to. As an adult, I now supplement this routine with melatonin). This was enough to get me from a state of complete dysregulation to "garden-variety" depression, which eventually I overcame with the help of a supportive network of friends and parents who (semi-forcefully) steered me down a path where I could succeed.
A hypothetical AussieWog98 might have convinced himself that the cause of the dysregulation was gender dysphoria, cut himself off from the people who really care and spent all his time online with other people just like himself until one day he couldn't take it any more.
I really, genuinely believe that this is what is happening today, at least in the case of some people. For others (especially people who transition later in life), it really can help them be comfortable in their own skin, and this is of course where the trans "debate" gets hairy.
[1] This is not technical language, but is the best and most concise word I can use to decribe it. There may be a more appropriate technical term, or a more scientific description of what is happening (seizures in the amygdala?). Feel free to comment if you have any scientific information or proper terminology, I'd love to read the literature on it.
My fear is not really with the misdiagnosis, but with the lack of the precise support you received being so common. It's hugely common in North America, where I am from, to adopt a "child as asset or liability" mindset that leads to parenting based solely around achieving normative goals, which accumulate with increased intensity around adolescence, and are further bolstered by today's media environment. Ours is a consumer culture, and part of that is that your identity is very product-driven.
In this light, gender comes to the fore not in the sense of being "tempted" after seeing something online, but as a particular mask to wear 24/7, regardless of which one you choose; something which autistic people have long been known to struggle with. It isn't outrageous to conclude that switching masks might be a relief if the assigned one isn't working out; consider that autistic women are historically underdiagnosed, and then flip it around to the context of MTF transition: suddenly, autistic man behavior would "pass" as neurotypical woman behavior. That makes it seem like transitioning is the way to be normal!
Of course, normative masks have consequences for people who lean into their assigned gender, too, creating a context for all kinds of medical interventions: steroids to look big, diet drugs and surgeries to look small, study pills to pass exams, and so on. It's a promise of purification which has gradually targeted younger and younger ages. Gender in this light isn't so unique, it's just a particularly scapegoated expression of the culture.
The parents bear some responsibility because in happily going along with a diagnosis of this sort, they're most likely being all too eager to make their child be a better product on the market. Whatever the intervention was, they can go to bed that evening telling themselves "my kid will be successful now." Which in turn results in prolongment of mental health issues and ad-hoc coping mechnaisms.
You linking depression and exhaustion to this dysregulation state and the cure being sleep related sounds like your describing a really bad case of sleep deprivation. But I also get the sense that it is not that? And somehow related to autism and you can recognize people in that kind of state based on their word choice? Like if they could sleep a lot and go camping in nature with not many people and not many expectations for a month and avoid overstimulation, would a lot of these problems clear then?
I think you're not 100% wrong - it was chronic sleep deprivation.
Where the Autism comes in, though, is that a young person on the spectrum won't know how to recognise internal signs that they need to sleep, possibly won't even understand that they need to sleep (unless they've explicitly read/been told about sleep health/hygeine), and likely have difficulty sleeping as is.
The net result is, where a neurotypical person would just realise the early warning signs and slow down/go to bed earlier, the Autistic person can literally continue to ruin their mental health for a decade or more without ever putting two and two together.
The reason I specifically mentioned the Autism rather than the sleep deprivation is that this failing to meet needs can occur in many aspects of one's life and present itself in weird ways. You might see Autistics socially isolate themselves for years on end, then assume that the reason they're plagued with depression and anxiety is because they're not getting laid.
> Like if they could sleep a lot and go camping in nature with not many people and not many expectations for a month and avoid overstimulation, would a lot of these problems clear then?
Do you have a kid in a situation like this? Getting away from technology would probably be an effective treatment temporarily, but you'd need to follow it up with solid, rigorous information about sleep hygeine and its importance.
Poor sleep leads to worse stress regulation (also in neurotypical people), and chronic stress leads to difficulties in situational and bodily awareness, which leads to poor sleep hygiene, which reinforces the stress regulation problems, rinse and repeat until your life is in ruins.
I personally don't have a kid or know of one with ASD, but I was putting a bunch of previous info in my head plus what you describe as a potential solution. AFAIK ASD often comes with sensory processing issues, within and without as you described.
So by putting someone in nature, which can be sensorily calming for some, along with the social expectations and such, and nature being known to help people's sleep I would put it all together with what I suggested.
For me it would more be a debugging thing. Like if sleep in nature worked, then that is a hint, if it didn't and an indoor equivalent didn't work, since for some the nature stuff can be anxiety provoking for other reasons, then it's something else, etc.
I am currently reading non violent communication after seeing a suggestion for it on here.
I think communication is an underrated skill set. Mostly because it's so easy to feel like you are good at it when you are really not.
I think a lot of us are in the Dunning Kruger phase of communicating.. I know I was up untill a few years ago and I've been in my job (as a 3d artist) for nearly 10 years.
From what I understood, the reason people are supporting this move is not because he's giving up money but because he is ensuring that the company doesn't have stake holders that will push for profit above all else.. Because that could lead to bad outcomes for the environment.
So he gave the company to a non profit to run. Because itvs a... Non profit.
I'm not in the UK but we are having a similar cost of living crisis in Ireland.
I'm happy to pay the price of solidarity with Ukraine.
I work with both Russian and Ukrainian people and none of them want this war.
People are dieing and being forced out of their homes. I know this is happing everywhere but I would like to support these people:
1 because I know people in that country and
2 because like Britain in the second world war they are fighting for some form of a fair democracy.
If that means I have to buy cheaper food and not have heating.. It's a small price to pay compared to what my friends are going through.
> I'm not in the UK but we are having a similar cost of living crisis in Ireland.
I'm irish, living in the UK, and the cost of living crisis is significantly worse here. The standard rate that Electric ireland are about to increase to for both gas and electricity is lower than I paid last winter, and we're about to see our bills almost double from that (and do the same again in 6 months). My bill in october will be almost 4x the cost of what it was last september.
And then he goes on to win the Nobel prize because of it..